Confident or Cocky?

 What is it about those who have confidence? For some reason we as a society of women have to down play or add a disclaimer to anything we feel good about, especially when it comes to physical appearance.  I sent out a text earlier this week to some of my friends asking them to send me a picture of their favorite physical feature. For some I received a picture back instantly, for others I got a picture with a disclaimer, and from the rest I got nothing.  I’m sure it came across as a silly request but I thought it was interesting at how all the replies came back differently.  Some were very confident in what they liked, some needed a little guidance, some I had to pry it out of them and others simply didn't know (or want to say).

I feel like confidence boarder lines cockiness. It’s easier to just be humble! Who wants to come across vain? But there is a difference and it’s okay………in fact it’s more than okay to be confident in who you are. The reason why I targeted physical appearance is because of the amount of negative talk that we as women do to ourselves and others.  Something is always wrong and if it’s right, then the girl down the street has something wrong with her.  What if we as a society of women encouraged one another?

When I started this Blog it was purely for the intent to build my confidence. Do I think I am the hottest thing, with the best fashion taste and hair advice that this worlds got to offer…………….nope, not even a little bit. In fact my big secret is that I am scared to death of what people think of me.  So what led me to this……………..I love love love looking at pictures of people that think they got it going on!! They possess a confidence (not cockiness) that I want! It’s not just the simple fact of snapping a picture and posting it for the world to see, it’s what’s behind that.  I am a daughter of God; he created me in his image. Of coarse I am beautiful! 

I think that sometimes when we are lacking the confidence that we want, we tend to put others down for the confidence they posses. When we start to think we are better than others for certain features, talents or knowledge we posses, that’s when confidence turns into cockiness and that’s just ugly!

So the next time you receive a compliment, don’t down play it! If you have the most gorgeous hair and you know it but don’t want to come off sounding “full of yourself” you have the right to be proud of your beauty. Don’t use negative self talk and don’t talk negatively about others. We all should be confident, because we all are beautiful.

When I sent out that text to my friends, I could have named multiple features for each one of them in an instant. My hope is that all of us will gain the confidence to truly love ourselves and for most of you (probably the majority of you) you won’t need a blog to help create that, but if you do, join the club.

My advice to you this week, is to find one physical feature that you love the most.  Why a physical feature? Because again physical appearance is where women tend to be the hardest on themselves. Good luck and snap a picture :)